Gotcha?

So I had plans for tonight.  Drinks with a friend from work.  After a rough week with people going crazy wrapping up the semester it seemed like the perfect thing.  But the plans fell through and so, with hubby busy on a project, I hunkered down for some good surfing on the web.  I wound up looking at some adoption blogs.  People I know keep having babies!  Funny how that works.  These things cannot be stopped.  :)  And as usual I feel a mix of so much happiness for them and a then, depending on the day, either a dull ache or a sharp pain with a lovely side of jealousy.  One thing I struggle with greatly in regards to adoption is just how sad it is!  People don't really like to talk about how sad it is but I know that, if I do ever adopt, while it will be a joyful day for me, it will represent a terribly painful, confusing, and life-changing day for the "tummy mommy".   And also for the child because that loss of all that was familiar creates a wound.  And so adopting is so, not to be cutesy but just because I can't think of a better word, pregnant with such a huge mix of emotions.  I read this entry tonight that really touched me and made me think.  http://www.growninmyheart.com/getting-ready-for-my-gotcha-day    For those of you not familiar with the term "Gotcah Day", it's a name that some people use to tell their adopted children about the day they were brought to their adoptive home.  This author and those who commented on her entry have an interesting perspective.  Check it out.